
One Man’s Journey: How I Quit Porn and Why I’m Not Going Back
I remember when I first discovered internet porn – I was 17 years old (1). Fascinated by this world of unleashed sexual expression and fantasy, I couldn’t get enough of it. As I grew up and began exploring my own sexuality, I discovered…

Embracing Emotions: Showing Up Instead Of Shutting Down
I still remember the exact day.
November 14th, 2015. Two friends and I had just finished co-leading a men’s training in the mountains above LA. We had spent the weekend device-free, exploring healthy masculinity with a large group of men.
That…

Hazed Into Manhood: Inviting A Return To Sacred Male Initiation
We used to be initiated into manhood; now we are hazed into manhood.
In middle school, bullies used to single me out. I think I was an easy target. I wasn’t tough or popular. They used to ask, “why are you so sensitive?” But they…

Getting Real: Talking About Pornography & Sexuality with Middle School Boys
I was recently invited to facilitate a discussion about pornography and sexuality with a classroom full of 7th grade boys. With this being such an important and rarely-addressed topic for boys at this formative age, I was happy to say yes.
Research…

Beauty in the Breakdown: How a Bike Accident Cracked Open my Heart
A Single Fateful Moment
6:44am - Jan 21st, 2015:
Bicycle wheels slice through humid air in the quiet pre-dawn darkness, as I glide down the winding pavement road. Car lights illuminate the faintly falling rain, as the drivers rush past.…

My Vulnerable Truth: Exploring Masculinity Beneath the Mask
I’ve spent most of my life with a mask on.
It’s painful to admit, but it’s true.
I’ve worn the mask of numbness in an attempt to protect myself from rejection and disappointment; I’ve worn the mask of superficial satire in an attempt…

Sacred Masculinity: Learning To Live My Truth As A Wholehearted Man
For many years, I was ashamed of my masculinity.
I was deeply disturbed by all the aggression, misogyny, and violence that I saw being perpetrated by men - across many different cultures. It seemed that being a “real man” meant being…

Courage to Quit: How I’m Outgrowing Pornography and Re-awakening My Sexuality
If you are a human being alive in the 21st century, chances are you have an opinion about porn.
Maybe you use it; maybe you don’t. Maybe you think it’s good; maybe you think it’s bad; maybe you think it’s none of my business. Fine.…

Embrace Your Fear: 5 Reasons Why It’s Time to Stop Playing Small
I always wanted to belong; to feel connected, feel loved, feel alive. I wanted people to like me, to respect me, to recognize my contribution in the world. I wanted to do something worth remembering, to create something beautiful, to help heal…

I Love You, Man: 5 Tips for Stepping Into More Mature Masculinity
I grew up never telling anyone that I loved them. Not even my parents. The word “love” used to feel too feminine, too emotional, too vulnerable.
As a young man impacted by old masculine norms, there was no room for love in my vocabulary.…

Confronting My Privilege: The Path to Radical Self-Awareness
As a man who is committed to personal growth, interpersonal healing, and systemic change, I am constantly trying to cultivate a deeper sense of self-awareness. I believe that the only way to truly be of service to others is to know myself deeply…