FeaturedApril 2022
Hazed Into Manhood: Inviting a Return to Sacred Male Initiation
We used to be initiated into manhood; now we are hazed into manhood. Where hazing pulls us backward, initiation invites us forward.
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Emotional IntelligenceNovember 2022
Embracing Emotions: Showing Up Instead Of Shutting Down
No amount of battle armor can offer our loved ones what they need most – to feel met in the messy imperfection and vulnerability of being human.
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Shame & HealingSeptember 2015
Beauty in the Breakdown: How a Bike Accident Cracked Open My Heart
I discovered beauty in the breakdown; joy through the pain. I no longer feel so isolated or alone.
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IntegrityApril 2015
Courage to Quit: How I'm Outgrowing Pornography and Re-Awakening My Sexuality
This journey is not just about quitting porn and overcoming addiction; it's about creating the life I want. It's about cultivating the skills to give and receive the love and intimacy that I long for.
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Emotional IntelligenceMarch 2015
Why Don't You Cry About It? Part 2: Unlocking the Power of Tears
I would never have guessed that these tears, which I've associated with so much pain, would also be the source of my greatest power.
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Emotional IntelligenceFebruary 2015
Why Don't You Cry About It? Part 1: The Fear of Letting Go
I was literally scared to death of what might happen if I ever actually allowed myself to 'let go.' To sit with my sorrow. To really feel what was within me.
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GrowthJanuary 2015
Embrace Your Fear: 5 Reasons Why It's Time to Stop Playing Small
When I believe that I am powerful, connected, and capable of love – beyond my wildest imagination – I am.
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MasculinityDecember 2014
Sacred Masculinity: Learning to Live My Truth as a Wholehearted Man
The era of subconsciously bending and contorting to 'make others happy' and to 'get people to like me' has to end here. Now.
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VulnerabilityNovember 2014
My Vulnerable Truth: Exploring Masculinity Beneath the Mask
Turns out it's a lot easier to breathe – and a lot easier to be – without this mask on.
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MasculinityOctober 2014
I Love You, Man: 5 Tips for Stepping Into More Mature Masculinity
Love does not follow those rules – love is an infinite game: The more you give, the more you have to give.
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GrowthSeptember 2014
Confronting My Privilege: The Path to Radical Self-Awareness
The only way to truly be of service to others is to know myself deeply and to practice living and acting with integrity.
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VulnerabilityAugust 2014
What Experience, Idea, or Dream Would You Share If You Knew Someone Would Truly Listen?
How would your life be different if you allowed yourself to truly be seen?
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ConnectionJuly 2014
Let's Be Real: From Superficial Interaction to Meaningful Connection
Every time we invite meaningful connection with another person, we open up space for empathy. And, in that space, we catch a glimpse of our shared humanity.
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Emotional IntelligenceJune 2014
Transforming the Culture of Violence: Empathy Starts From Within
It is only by doing our own work – by reconnecting with our own feelings – that we can learn to cultivate true empathy for others.
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VulnerabilityMarch 2014
What I Learned From Telling 100,000 People About My Porn Habit
By living courageously from my vulnerable truth, I stumbled into what may well be one of my life's greatest callings: To activate and support the rise of wholehearted men.
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IntegrityFebruary 2013
One Man's Journey: How I Quit Porn and Why I'm Not Going Back
I didn't realize how much watching porn manipulated my mind, warping my sexuality, numbing my feelings, and impacting my relationships with women. And I was not alone.
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